12/17/2012.1: Speaking Up

December 17, 2012

An excellent article was published on The Good Men Project on how talking about issues — personal and otherwise — is important and how not talking about problems is counter-productive.

The webcomic I’m experimenting with, Seizure Prone, will be tackling this topic. It’s amazing how stigmatized people with any of many disabilities, tastes, or past experiences feel. Some of these stigmatized feelings are real and some are perceived, but regardless talking through things does help. I know this to be the case first-hand, as I used to have a few problems of my own that I kept bottled up.

To name one problem I’ve been a serial liar, lying to some of my closest friends about my life for years, over the stupidest things because I wanted to seem “cool”. I pretended to be a drug user despite having never done drugs in my life, I pretended to be a “state champion” for Super Smash Bros. for whatever reason. I even lied about my class because I thought I’d be cooler if I came across as poor.

I still lie to some extent, but I’ve been mostly good at admitting I lied shortly after each one. It’s the weirdest thing and I don’t know why I do it, but I know for a fact that I would be a whole lot more paranoid lying on top of lies to avoid being caught if I had never talked to people about my problem. Speaking up honestly does help.

via Twitter user @TMatlack

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